eldest-sibling

Notes from salon

Developing back-channel communication as there is no energy to take on direct confrontation
Julie deply movie about her family - Le Skylab
Position based vs. Personality based
- Position based is top down but can severely clash with people’s personalities
- Personality based is more democratic with room for negotiation but the constant state of flux can couterintuitively cause people to be caged
If you grow up in a culture of self-reliance, where you don’t think about asking for help, you subconsciously develop condescension around those who do
Cats go where they are loved, while puppies will work for it
Liked for the idea of you vs. being actually liked
Physical prowess still has a major influence in interpersonal dynamics at home
People self-sabotage/cull their achievements to avoid being the object of envy
“best little boy” syndrome
Adult siblings have a waning ebb/flow relationship
- Allegiances come and go
All said and done, we have come to cherish our positions in the pecking order of a family